Aging begins when you are born IMO, or whatever point a person comes into existence.

I don’t think creatures who reproduce ought to be immortal.

Senescence, I agree with the people who put it around 25, the point where you stop growing at all physically has to be the point you start degrading, but it must happen so much slower than growing does, I felt my absolute physical best around 45 years of age (certainly NOT 25) and still feel really good at near 60. So maybe there was an adjustment period then a steady state for awhile. Or a quick slide then s slower slide?

Then could you not do this testing on a machine at their office? What the heck?

Ooh a debutante. Does he get a fancy dress and a coming out party? How exactly do you get jumped into that club?

There was no control group doing the workouts without protein supplements?

It was just the “send me a suitable wife” comment, and your post history, my sincere apologies if somehow I have misconstrued all of that.

I am a woman, a mom, a wife, and certainly not young. But you can’t just go around trying to immediately wife people. You have to meet as individuals and see how it goes, and it’s husband and wife, not “find me a wife” or “find me a husband”. You can’t know that until you know the person as a person.

(And by all means, continue blaming factors other than yourself, when the only one you actually have some control over is yourself.)

Maybe by thinking of women as people and not wives? Hooking up & hanging out with people until one sticks has been the only way for me. Though to be fair the only two really good jobs I’ve had were temp to perm too.

Approach it like fun, see what happens.

I mean, we met online but not on a dating site.

First long term relationship, brother of my friend who came down here from up north. Had kids, never married, at midlife he got radicalized and hella racist and abusive, we split dramatically after 21 years, (not all his fault, I also did regrettable things in response to what was going on).

Second round met online, had a date, hooked up for awhile, really got on well. He’d had a string of 2 year relationships (from “good on paper” matches from eHarmony) so I said after 2 years we can live together. Our kids all got along, his parents liked me after awhile, he wanted to get married, I said you can ask after we’ve lived together 2 years. We are happy a dozen years in.

I don’t think it matters how you meet but it DOES hurt to think of people as a commodity, all that swiping and trying to maximize compatibility. People are people not clothing or toys.

Yeah I wish only for a few things that need a bigger base, sub for my city on Reddit was so helpful, and I miss Normal Nudes and Naked Progress, the NSFW stuff on Lemmy is more onlyfans girls & AI stuff, Reddit had such a massive reach they had everything, more people means more niche stuff.

Overall though? So much nicer here. And I am not sure you can have both, it’s probably nicer because it’s smaller.

Clone Wars

Sure, but we also drank in parking lots because there was nothing to do, had guys physically grabbing at us instead of just yelling stuff, got bullied in school more, and the violent crime rate was something like 10x what it is now. Oh, and our friends were dying of AIDS as well. And the bay was polluted, and downtown was so dead we could walk around it like a ghost town.

I will never understand nostalgia. There are good things and bad things about every time. But even with the fuckers trying to pull us backwards now, there has been progress.

I am 50-something, and one day as I popped up from a squat to retrieve something from a low shelf, realized that not everyone could, and became grateful.

Use it or lose it. I don’t like to sit like that but ok to sit in kneeling, that seems to force good posture too.

I think it’s pretty common for people to think doctors are great at treating acute conditions (stroke, broken bones, severe illness) but distrust advice on chronic conditions. So this may not be something they see as a discrepancy. And I can kind of see it if I squint - people on lots of medicines are often sick, and people on none healthier, and they may think this causation runs in the opposite direction, that they can magically join the healthy group by not taking medicines.

Not just couples. I was aghast to learn that my fellow parents at work track the location of their teenage kids. All of them, except me. What the fuck? If I want to know where they are I text and ask.

What’s more - half of them also have it turned on in the other direction.

This is crazy to me. I want my kids to grow into adults and I’m not going to surveil them all the time. I think a kid of teen age has some reasonable expectation of privacy. We are close, I have a good relationship with my kids but not THAT close, I don’t need to know if you stopped at Wawa on your way home.

We are in a very diverse city here, no matter what axis you spin it on, and not really conservative, it’s not any kind of monoculture in Florida. Spot on about taxes, though I’m sure they aren’t that much lower in reality, people move here thinking they are, then get hit with the sales tax, property tax, car insurance and property insurance.

Don’t all New Yorkers come down here eventually? NJ too. The influx of conservative northerners is a big part of the mess we are in.

More years usually = more healthy years, that’s how you end up with more years. Chronic disease wears bodies out faster, not more slowly. I’d rather get it over later, and yes with something quick.

Sure there will come a time when I am uncomfortable every day but at near 60 still do yoga, eat well, sex every day, nothing hurts, very good quality of life. Didn’t expect it but I have it for now.

You know, when I got my current job, the people in my department said"we tried to find your Facebook but couldn’t" and I said 'yeah that’s because I don’t have one."

13 years later, still don’t.

Though honestly even our work teams chat would probably be too spicy for these motherfuckers. They just want a pretext to keep out anybody. Like some law impossible to follow, that they can selectively enforce.

If there was a study, I would volunteer. I’m an omnivore now for 20 years, after being vegetarian for about the same amount of time, never vegan. I live a reasonably healthy lifestyle but office job and do like to drink about thrice a week, only one drink (so moderate, I think) . I’m sure there are lifestyle matched vegetarians and vegans.

Personally I’m healthier but heavier (was underweight, now middle of healthy BMI which feels fat to me but I do literally feel good) with some meat in the diet but don’t eat it every day. Cholesterol was high when I was vegetarian, still is. Only thing that drops that is regular fasting, which unfortunately was a reliable migraine trigger for me.

Well, that’s ten minutes of my life I’d like back. Thanks though. Does he ever listen? Ever?