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  • For all the alternatives out there truth is, none are really anywhere near perfect. Matrix and most of its clients while encrypted don’t offer true jump in /jump out game chat.

    After complaining about it heavily for a few days, I did find one client that has that same feel, commet.chat. I haven’t done a whole lot of testing yet, but from what I’ve seen/experienced, it’s close, if not there

    Personally I still prefer XMPP+Cheogram. It’s more Signal than Discord, but it’s a lightweight chat server with voice call abilities, and that’s what I needed it for







  • At the same time, many users half-ass using them

    Honestly the way a lot of the Tinder-style ones (swiping) are designed it almost feels like they’re meant to be half-assed? You can’t filter by likes, just exclude by dislikes (ex. Don’t include people who don’t want kids, don’t include smokers, etc) because there’s no search anymore. They just show you a profile, and you swipe.

    When I was using them I very quickly stopped reading bios before they matched back. I just swiped right on everyone, checked daily for new matches, read those profiles and blocked/messaged people based on what was in their profile.

    Speaking on filters, though: They don’t even work. I had men filtered out, and I ended up getting about 25% of profiles being men. Like, the only gender tag they had was “Man,” which lead to a lot of the “Idk why they even showed me to you I have men filtered out” message being sent.




  • That’s part of why I still gave phone numbers and emails, despite both not being secure in any capacity; most people do have them, even if they’re not their preferred methods of communication.

    I did lose a couple of people, but they were the ones I caught up with like… Once a year, anyway. Not that I didn’t value them as friends, but there comes a point where it’s like… I’m not missing a whole lot without you here, y’know. And it’s not like I had that many friends, either, I only have a handful of people I talk to regularly. Maybe 15-20 a month if we’re including friends of people I know who I see in passing?


  • I mean, most people should, yeah, but most don’t. Hell, most people I know can’t change a flat on their car, either, and I personally couldn’t change my car’s headlight. Probably would’ve figured it out, since I could change the spark plugs, but still. I think it also comes from a different source, though. It’s always been anxiety over ruining things for tech, or sending all of your money to a Nigerian prince. Nowadays it’s because tech has become more of a black box (like cars) for capitalism reasons, so most people just… Don’t look into it. They don’t fix their own cars, they don’t fix their own computers, they take them to the dealership, or to GeekSquad.

    I honestly don’t even know if I would’ve learned half of what I know if I grew up with today’s tech. It’s a lot more locked down now, so you can’t just curiously fuck around with it and see what you can do without breaking it







  • We don’t currently have another way of enforcing this sort of thing, though, aside making software paid by default. How else will you convince a company that isn’t even concerned with its long-term growth in favor of quarterly earnings reports to pay money for free software? Especially when you consider that (at least in the US) that sort of thing could get them sued by their shareholders.

    Frequently threats of legal action, backed by the ability to follow through on them, are enough to get most companies to fold, and pay. I don’t know that telemetry would be required in most cases, just because employees do talk, and usually publicly. I’m not sure if Unreal Engine does, but I can say with some certainty that WinRar didn’t, and most of their money was made through commercial licenses on nagware