Yeah. SimpleX has a similar problem, because it’s basically creating a bunch of 1:1 connections between everyone to preserve anonymity - IIRC (I freely admit I could be misremembering this). As I understood, it’s a decent limit, though - more than the 7-12 friend/family group you’d reasonably trust in a chat group.

I did not consider this a blocker - who’s using encrypted chat for large groups? Large group chats are fundamentally insecure; is the use case about anonymity, not encryption?

I would still like to understand why Jami is never mentioned in these posts. I’m not aware of any technical or security objections, and the less I hear about Jami, the more concerned I become about using it.

Amazon has a non-existent customer support, so you may have limited options.

If they had customer support, I’d suggest contacting them and tell them to either refund, or else you’d give them the ID immediately followed by a GDPR request to purge your data. That might have gotten some movement, because those GDPR requests have the force of law, and are also a fair PITA for Amazon. However, there’s no way to give them a shot across the bow. I think your options are:

• process a charge-back, as someone else suggested, which might result in an Amazon ban
• take the loss (that’s entirely your call, regardless of anyone else’s opinion)
• give them the ID, get your refund
• you can still initiate a GDPR purge request. I’m going to guess it’s going to result in a block, but maybe not. You might be able to recreate your account

The happy news is that you are protected by GDPR. Many of us are not, and don’t even have the option to demand they purge the information.

Second this.

• message delivery can be iffy
• VoIP works well
• you connect with people like a normal app that isn’t going to scare your family off, not trying to get them to put in GUIDS
• it has all the creature comforts, attached/embedded photos, markup, attached files, attach pictures, share your location for 10 minutes (I’m on my way), history editing, deleting
• it has concurrent multi device support, so you can get messages on your phone, tablet, and desktop at the same time
• There’s a full desktop client (Electron, i think 🤮 but it works)
• the dev team is small and they seem to like to work more on features than user issues. development is slow
• multi-person groups work fine

It’s still the best E2E messaging system I’ve found; the only one my mom, wife, and sisters-in-law reliably use.

I just want them to focus on fixing the sketchy DHT that seems to cause every problem.

Penalty: the equivalent of $100, probably. And even that will be contested; the second judge will drop it to $50, and the third to $10, and then the Meta lawyer will pay that out of her pocket change.

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This is why I don’t interact with family or friends. My mom doesn’t know my email address.

No solution I’ve found, but I’ve been working on this myself. As I see it, there are two situations, and four categories of data:

I. My wife survives me II. We both die, e.g. in a car

• Digital media
• Financial accounts
• Subscriptions
• Physical possessions

I’ve been thinking about getting an M-Disk writer for media, because ultimately, backing up to B2 is fine until I’m gone. Family members will need physical media for the photos and stuff.

For secrets, I’m planning using SSSS. Keys will be given to members on each side of my wife’s and my families. If we both die, they’ll have to get together, put their keys together, and decrypt the KeePass DB.

The online accounts are almost all financial; those are in a KeePass DB. My wife already has access to all of that through power is attorney, and if we both go, it’s SSSS for the family.

The third data category are accounts and services that will be to be stopped. I don’t subscribe to much, but the VPS provider and B2 will have to be terminated, and a document with instructions and with the credentials is in the SSSS archive.

The final category are assets: home, mortgage info, where and what the M-Disks are, a copy of the will that deals with all of the valuables, and any notes about anything not covered in the will. That’s in documents in the SSSS archive.

I still have to put the archive together. I’ve been working toward a state where all of the secrets are in a cryptfs that’s shared on the LAN and automatically encrypted with SSSS and synced to a share. Once I have that automated, I’ll communicate out the SSSS keys and a how-to document.

In some ways, it was easier when you just died and your kids fought over the china. But I have a plan.

I’ve never had to reboot the server; I had to restart Synapse because if Memory leaks.

Are you using any bridges?

Anyway, it got too expensive to run my own, so I went back to Matrix.org. Now I’m mostly back on IRC except for a couple of rooms. IRC stinks, but Matrix has been nothing but a decade of pain.

I watch YouTube with FreeTube on the desktop, and Tubular on mobile. Both are always over VPN, and anonymous (not logged in).

I haven’t logged into YouTube in literal years.

Yup! Someone else pointed that out to me; I thought you were talking about the puppets and missed that you were talking about Jabber.

My bad!

Oh. I did misread that. Thanks for pointing it out!

running your own server is super lightweight.

Not IME. Are you running Synapse? Gigabytes of disk usage and memory leaks requiring restarts.

I can use IRC

The fact that many Discord and IRC channels (servers?) block Matrix connections has drastically reduced its usefulness for me. When I was running my own Matrix server, I could have gotten around it by using a puppet, but Synapse is such a hog I had to shut it down, and most of the IRC rooms I want to use don’t allow Matrix proxies.

You misspelled “sketchy.”

Not so dumb for a bunch of us using VPNs with exit nodes in other time zones.

I don’t recall which one anymore, but there are web sites that take text you type and convert it to Unicode code points in different styles. DDG for “Unicode text converter” or something like that.

What if I never access Facebook, and have ever had a Facebook account?

I think there are several servers that don’t try to match any particular dominant player.

It’s really down to the follow-person or follow-community model. AP supports both, but I’ve seen few servers or clients that support both. Which should be possible; it’s something that frequently annoys me about every Lemmy client I’ve tried: sometimes, there are people I’d like to follow, and get everything they post, regardless of community, in my feed.

I have a GoToSocial server, which is pure AP, not Mastodon. Misskey is still a microblogging platform, right? One of the people I interacted with a lot when I was trying it ran a Misskey server, and she used it like a microblogging tool.

It’s the modality of it. There’s a category of servers that follow the Twitter model: people follow people, and posts are usually short and frequent throughout the day. Then there’s the Reddit model: people join communities, and tend to do more periodic binge browsing.

Misskey - as I understand it - is a follow-the-person, shorter post model; the Twitter model. Lemmy models after Reddit.

I prefer the community model.