I got a TCL last year and it wouldn’t let me use the TV until I set up the internet. After 4 factory resets I figured out how to put it in store demo mode, and plugged in a separate streaming device that connects to the internet. Now I realize I could have connected the TV to the internet and then blocked it at the network level.

Sorry, you said insurance and I missed it somehow. I agree that laymen and insurance companies treat it as a bible, but I also think that’s how the APA presents it. If the goal is to compile “symptoms that tend to present together” the DSM does a poor job of making that clear.

I have several problems with the DSM. This isn’t an exhaustive list but off the top of my head:

-It’s based on the idea that there’s a clear line between “normal” and “disordered” mental functioning, and that we can quantify all of a person’s experiences to land on either side of that line. There are a handful of diagnoses that are discrete enough for me to say “you either have it or you don’t” but the majority of them are so arbitrary that they’re not useful. Mood disorders are especially vague.

-Inter-rater reliability is notoriously poor. I can diagnose anyone with a disorder to argue medical necessity for therapy.

-It includes conditions that cannot and should not be diagnosed by mental health professionals, like narcolepsy. It’s good for providers to know what narcolepsy is, but unless they’re going to include every other medical condition, I don’t know why they include the ones they do.

-DSM-5 broadened the criteria for several disorders, possibly to increase access to insurance coverage, but it’s edging ever closer to categorizing every human experience as a disorder. According to DSM-5, if you’re having depressive symptoms for more than 2 weeks after a loved one dies, it’s no longer grief and it’s considered a major depressive episode. When people criticized that bereavement clause, DSM-5-TR included “prolonged grief disorder” which extends the time you can grieve the loss without a MDD diagnosis. But grief is absolutely a normal response to loss, and sometimes it can be really disruptive and long-lasting. Why are we pretending that’s disordered?

-The majority of every DSM task force has been older white men, and we should be very skeptical of what they consider normal or not.

I mean… insurance companies also treat it like the bible, as do many psychologists. It would be useful to have guidance like “these are symptoms that tend to present together” but that’s not how the DSM is written.

I’ve been thinking about it for a long time. Does the installation wipe everything stored on the phone? I don’t mind installing apps individually, just wondering about files and photos. Also can I run Action Launcher on Graphene?

Aside from revenge against Walz… one theory is that we’re a functioning community that’s ethnically diverse, relatively progressive, union strong, and very friendly to queer folks. Fox News would have you believe that any one of those features creates a godless hellscape, but we’re doing pretty good. Minnesota grew a huge budget surplus under Walz, and then we invested it in schools and social programs. The Republican tradition is to destroy something (see: the federal government) and say, “See? Told you it was broken!”

I agree, and to the comment above you, it’s not because it’s guaranteed to reduce symptoms. There are many ways that talking with another person is good for us.

Do you have a source on your claim that data centers recycle water? Because these researchers state that 80% of the water is evaporated, and the other 20% is discharged to municipal wastewater facilities.

Ha, I was doing a similar calculation recently. I think the only subscription I ever paid for was Netflix, and for the others I used family and friends’ accounts. Only replacing Netflix, I haven’t broken even, but considering I pirate content from 5-6 different services, it’s absolutely cheaper.

But techbro 10 years ago was an undercut and a leather jacket. I’m hoping there’s a label for this iteration.

Looks like he and Zuck have the same stylist. Anyone know what this look is called, with the oversized tee and chain around his neck?

I know someone who just got hired at an unfinished Meta data center, ostensibly to do some low-level hardware monitoring and maintenance. His boss admitted that he accidentally hired people a couple months too early, so the first couple weeks have consisted of sitting around, eating free food and playing mobile games. Next week they’re being flown to an active data center out of state, but they won’t have much of their own work to do for another 4-6 weeks.

So these guys are being paid $25/hr, 40hrs a week, with a free lunch, and making no money for the company. I would expect any other company to find this unacceptable, but it’s just a drop in the bucket for Meta.

I’m gonna need a source on that.

Thank you for expanding on that point. I meant it to be a “here’s how we got here” before the rest of my “this is where we are today.”

You’re totally right, and any conversation about men’s behavior at large should include the experiences you just described. Even though we didn’t get ourselves into this situation - in that we didn’t raise ourselves - we’re the ones who will get us out.

I’m a therapist who works almost exclusively with men. Here one pattern I’ve seen often:

• Man is conditioned from a young age not to identify, process or express his feelings
• Man doesn’t share his feelings with anyone - friends, family, partners - for years
• Man sees woman as safe, caring and validating
• Man confides in woman only and continues not sharing feelings with others
• Woman becomes overwhelmed, resentful, dismissive
• Man gets the message that he never should have opened up in the first place

It can be true both that men need to open up more and should not treat their partners as therapists. We all need support systems because no one person can always be available to give us everything we need. It’s not wrong to confide in a partner, but if that partner is the only confidant it’s precarious for both. And I want to emphasize this is not the fault of a man, or men as a community. This is the result of generations of conditioning from both men and women, and both men and women play a part in the solution. I also want to recognize that many of us don’t have a network of people we could open up to even if we wanted to, and many more can’t afford therapy.

If anyone reading this can afford therapy, I highly recommend it. It’s a place to undo some of that conditioning, to sit with someone who’s committed to listening, caring, and not judging.

young people feeling depressed and isolated is the least of your problems.

Children are the future of EVERY country. The future is looking bleak for young people in the US. Where do you live? Are young people unaffected by social media or what?

Out here in actual civilization though, tik tok youth drama is not representative of reality whatsoever.

That’s the thing though. It’s hard for me to wrap my head around sometimes, but for lots of young people, social media IS their reality. This became even more true during the pandemic. We asked young people to go to school on a screen and pretend it was the same as doing it in person. Why wouldn’t they have the same mindset about chatting, hanging out, flirting, dating, etc.? They don’t see it as simulated socializing, it’s just how they socialize.

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. Tautology doesn’t mean obvious or predictable, and you’re basing your argument on faulty premises. The study measured how many politically-aligned couples separated in a 1-year period compared to how many politically-opposed couples did so.

people separate because they have irreconcilable differences

Yes, sometimes that’s a reason people separate.

opposing political views is an irreconcilable difference

It’s sometimes irreconcilable, and sometimes not. Couples with opposing political views are more likely (but not guaranteed) to separate than couples who agree.

the conclusion of the research is that couples with irreconcilable differences are more likely to suffer from the problems associated with irreconcilable differences

Nowhere in the study do they declare political heterogamy an irreconcilable difference, nor could they without 100 years of data. You keep referring to “the proposition” and “the research subject” and “the conclusion” and then inserting your own phrases and concepts that were literally not a part of the study. And this is all in defense of your original comment in which you cast an aspersion on the value of the study and then claimed that you didn’t. You’ve made previous comments with the same low-effort “study finds that water is wet” so I don’t believe we’re both speaking in good faith here.

No one is casting aspersions on the scientific method or the value of research

In your original comment, it seemed like you were questioning why the study was funded, then compared it to another obvious cause-effect about kicking a dog. Did I misunderstand?

the conclusion simply follows naturally from the hypothesis

The conclusion might have confirmed your personal hypothesis, but we don’t assume that any conclusion “naturally follows” a hypothesis without measuring it.

The proposition here is that people who have opposing political views are more likely to be antagonistic to each other, that is a tautology.

The way you phrased it is a tautology, but the study didn’t measure antagonism. It measured whether couples broke up or not.

In the western scientific model, this is how we differentiate truths from anecdotes and assumptions. Not sure why this needs to be repeated in every thread about the results of research.

I agree that this is a sickening amount of e-waste, and companies should be responsible for processing/recycling their own waste, but what’s the alternative in this case? Mail the faulty batteries back to Anker?

Oh I don’t at all support what Meta has done, and I don’t trust any company not to harm and exploit users. I was responding to your comment by saying that talking to a chatbot doesn’t necessarily indicate that someone has “bigger problems.” If they’re not in a crisis, and they have reasonable expectations for the chatbot, I can see how it could be a helpful tool. If someone doesn’t have access to a real therapist, and a chatbot helps them feel better in the meantime, I’m not going to gatekeep that experience.